RULES FOR PARENTS TO LIVE BY DURING YOUR
DIVORCE (AND AFTER)
Think before you act.
Then think again.
Donít let impulsive behavior determine your future.
1. The person you are divorcing (and
their family) will always be closely related to you through your
children; every harsh word to or about your spouse (if not
spoken in private to your confessor) is almost guaranteed to get
back to them in some way and will ultimately hurt your children.
2. Consider everyone a potential witness against you.
3. Every negative thing you say (or said) or do (did) is
almost certain to be used against you.
4. Do not share with your children the details about the
divorce or your negative feelings about your spouse. They need
stability more than ever during this time. Divorce is an adult
matter, and your child is not your confidant. Children should
never be placed ďin the middleĒ, nor made to feel that they
cannot be loyal to both their parents.
5. Do not be manipulated by your spouseís behavior to act
thoughtlessly or inappropriately. Youíll pay the price, not
6. Your spouseís parents, family and friendsí first and
ultimate loyalty will be with them. Donít share information with
them or test their loyalty.
7. If you make a mistake with your spouse or children,
apologize, and practice forgiveness, so you and your children
8. Set limits and enforce them for yourself and for your
9. Avoid alcohol, drugs and any other behavior which may
impact on your parental fitness.
10. If in doubt, donít do it and donít say it. . . And always
be in doubt.
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